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Guiding Your Client: Introspective Decision Making Part 1

A Comprehensive Guide for Advocates

Effective decision making is a crucial skill, and as an advocate or options specialist, helping your clients navigate this process can be a challenging but rewarding endeavor. In this two-part article, we will explore how to guide your client toward introspective decision-making. The decision-making process is not merely about collecting information or soliciting advice; it's about understanding oneself, one's values, and navigating the intricate web of choices. 

The initial phase of the decision-making process involves consultation and information gathering. As an options specialist, you play a pivotal role in helping your client acquire relevant information, consider their options, and identify obstacles and what resources might be needed. However, it's crucial to convey that this is just the tip of the iceberg.

Understanding Decision-Making Styles

Before embarking on an introspective journey, it's essential that your client recognizes that there are various decision-making styles. These include:


  • Impulsive Decision-Makers: These individuals tend to make quick, often emotional decisions without thoroughly considering the consequences.

  • People Pleasers: They prioritize the opinions and desires of others over their own, leading to decisions that may not align with their true desires.

  • Reluctant Decision-Makers: These individuals often struggle to make decisions, leading to procrastination or avoidance of choice-making.

  • Thorough Decision-Makers: They meticulously examine all aspects of a decision, which can sometimes result in decision paralysis.


Identifying your client's decision-making style is a crucial first step in promoting introspection. Once your client has identified which one(s) of these methods of decision-making they often use, you can move to further self-examination.

Exploring the Self

Encourage your client to explore the depths of their beliefs, values, and desires. Cultivating self-awareness forms the foundation of introspection. Encourage them to engage in thoughtful reflection by posing questions such as:


  • What are your core values?

  • What are your long-term goals and aspirations?

  • How do your decisions align with your values and goals?

These questions will help to nurture the ability to slow down, contemplate facts and feelings, and formulate a well thought out decision. Deep thought requires time and reflection. Encourage your client to set aside moments for contemplation at home before she make a fin. Suggest journaling or meditation as tools to facilitate deeper thinking for continue growing in this skill.

Navigating Options

There are times in which clients have been in such a fast-paced train of thought that they have not even considered that there may be more than one option regarding their pregnancy. If so, they certainly have not considered which of their options actually suits their personal convictions and life circumstances. Part of your role as an advocate is to help your client understand their options so that they can make an informed decision. Instead of rushing into decisions, you can help your client explore multiple options and scenarios by providing education and allowing her to process what she has learned so that she is able to see where that might apply apply to her unique situation. 

Addressing Negative Emotions and Fear

Fear can be a significant impediment to clear decision-making. When negative emotions cloud judgment, it's essential to address them. The following can help you as an advocate address your client’s emotions.

  • Open Conversation: Create a safe and non-judgmental space for your client to express their fears and anxieties. Sometimes, simply talking about these emotions can provide clarity and relief.

  • Risk Assessment: Discuss the perceived risks and fears associated with each option. Rationalizing these fears can often make them seem more manageable.

  • Mindfulness and Stress Reduction: Introduce mindfulness techniques or stress reduction practices that can help your client manage fear and anxiety during the decision-making process.

Be sure to legitimize the emotions and fears of the client. If your client knows that you genuinely care, are trying to understand their situation and aren’t placing any expectations on them,  they will feel more inclined to hear how to manage those feelings. 

In next week’s tips, we will explore practical techniques for each type of decision-maker and delve deeper into the introspective process. 


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